Low: I found out by accident that Sofia didn’t finish many of her kumon worksheets when she would answer me she did. I don’t like to micro manage so I don’t usually check on her. Then I found out many half done worksheets and I got mad. She was in camp so I had a full morning to digest the “news” and think how to address it. To me, it feels betrayal yet I wasn’t sure if I should expect her (almost 10 years old) to be responsible and prioritizes finishing work over play. I planned to calmly talked to her but when she came home, I lashed out expressing my frustration without reserve. She cried and felt sorry. I told her no more play until she demonstrates she can be trusted and responsible.
Yet, I still doubt myself whether I am asking too much. My parents never supervised my studies, NEVER, because they were busy making a life. But I know 99% of the parents do play an important role for Chinese students including my husband. So I am undecided which role I want to take as mom.
High: we had vegan lasagna for dinner last night. It wasn’t very good, too sour from the homemade tomato sauce. Even husband didn’t want a second serving. But both girls ate it without too much fuss, Sofia even had second serving. It made me happy to know they are no longer picky eaters. The vegan lasagna had zucchini and eggplant, and tofu sauce instead of ricotta.
I finished the book and enjoyed this quote:
We tend to think that every moment, deacon,s, success, and failure is critical, but what’s critical over time is that our children become loyal friends, good partners, honest and reliable workers, have a strong moral center, and develop other worthy attributes. Our goal as parent is to be courageous enough to give our kids the time and opportunities they need to cultivate these qualities, and to model them ourselves.