- Sending kids to boarding school in middle school? I saw someone we know that sent both their daughters to boarding school in UK. I was puzzled for weeks. Finally I asked the dad why they made such decision. We entered into discussion about asian parenting style, how much we should support/force kids to do more. Obviously they are chinese and they want the best for their girls. It made me wonder what prevent me to do the same. It’s not that I don’t want the best for my kids’ future. It is probably a combination of the non-monetary cost we have to pay, both parents and kids, to get there that I am not willing to pay; and that I don’t really believe that this is the only way to success (however you define success). I think the second reason is stronger than first one. If I believe that hard work is the only guarantee way to success, I’d probably willing to pay the cost. But is it? I am not sure. For instance, sending 10-15 years old to boarding school, being away from the family would be so hard for the girls and me, not even sure if mentally it’s good for them. Maybe I am justifying my decision of not being the dragon mom. Parenting is so hard because we are never sure what we do is the right thing to do.
- Kindness in office culture. A colleague and I were commenting about something our management did that we really didn’t like. He’s only 3 years into our organization and was shocked by what he saw and disappointed. I would have been the same if not because I know kind, noble leader exists in our organization. I know that at work we need to be productive, efficient, business-generating, to move the career ladder. But if that’s at the expense of doing what is kind, then maybe that is not the ladder we want to climb.
- Everything hurts a bit. It’s not surprising that at the peak of my training, I have so many pains and aches. While I was lied down for a massage, I wonder if I am beating my body too much for its age. hahahah….. then I told myself, that is called adaptation!
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I can’t fathom sending my kids to boarding school. I just wonder what the measurable difference in outcomes would be? I guess a person will never know! I did ask my parents to send me to a boarding school close by (one hour) when I was in HS because I was so miserable in my tiny home town. They wouldn’t because they knew how fast time flies and how soon I would go off to college. I can understand their decision now that I am a parent. Luckily I feel good about the schools around us. And like you said, I think it comes down to hard work and probably luck. I did not go to a prestigious university but have ended up with an amazing career, all because of working hard and meeting a person who became my mentor and helped me get to where I am today!
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