I am big on declutter, physical and mental. I get joy from throwing trash from everybody’s closet. I am constantly unfollowing, zeroing my inbox, deleting emails/notes. Not so much my husband who likes to save just in case. Yet, he was “busy” deleting contacts from WeChat, the main social media and communication tool in China. He said: midlife means we need to simplify everything. I was surprised that he finally got the idea. 🙂
I remember when we started living together, I wanted to impose my life styles into him. Whenever he resisted I’d get frustrated. Aren’t we supposed to be in sync 100%? Obviously that was recipe for disaster for any relationship. Through hard lessons, I learned to accept and even appreciate that we are two independent individuals. Although our background are similar in many ways, we were raised by different parents and lived different lives. So it’s crazy to expect we would think the same way.
Yet, the longer we live together, our habits are getting alike. Eating, sleeping, exercising, socializing habits are very in sync now. I like that it simplifies how we organize our lives, but still appreciate it every time that something confirms it. 🙂
Yesterday was a full day at office. I finished 4:45pm and went to pick up Sofia from her mandarin class to walk back home. It’s a great way to finish the day, with movement and connection.
While the girls did homework and I read, Cookie was miaoying a lot outside as she wanted to come in. Hubby came in with her to join the girls. He has a soft heart for animals, and carries it like a baby. Looking at him carrying Cookie reminded me how much he did when Lizzy was a newborn.
Th girls finished the orange vegan cake in 2 days so I made a new batch using lemon this time. They had a small tasting piece and both agreed that lemon one was even better. 😀
One thought on “Midlife motto, evolution of my relationship with hubby.”
Interesting! I feel like my husband and I have many things in common, but also many things that are very different. He is not really one to “follow someone else’s lead” too much, really…so I generally don’t even attempt to “change” him, because it’s not worth it. I think we are both pretty aware though where our differences lie, and we accept that about each other and try to “give and take” on both sides as we can. It usually works out to be pretty fair, overall, but is something we have to keep in mind.