Day 204: parenting thoughts on privileges

I asked to a new friend who works in development on water engineering, why he chose that profession? I cannot imagine a 18 years old boy finds water engineering fascinating. His answer was surprising and not, he chose it because his teacher thought it was a good subject to study.

Isn’t it fascinating how much randomness we live by? One teacher casual words determine one’s career path and profession for life. Then I thought about myself, not the same story but similar. When i was in high school I had a great teacher on economics, and I found the subject very entertaining so I chose it for my college. When I finished college, my professor said I should go to grad school then I went to spend 5 years alone in a foreign country. When I graduated, some classmates where applying to where I work now so I did the same and got in and loving my profession 9 years later.

Thinking about my girls, their life comes with so many privileges that I didn’t have when I was a kids. My parents were busy making a living, so I was left alone with my thoughts. They didn’t help me with school, they didn’t guide me on extra curricular activities (I had none), they didn’t have idea what I should study. But they did teach me through example (they were never the kind that gives me theory of things) about hard work, perseverance, financial security, taking risks, embrace changes, and have a goal.

What can I teach my girls with their privileged life? Would they lose motivation or less driven? How can I teach them the joy of having a goal and plan the steps to achieve it? embrace the challenges which will make the final achievement more rewarding?

The other day I told Sofia that I was working on a difficult project, that my mind keeps racing at night trying to solve the problem. She couldn’t relate but she said: keep trying, keep practicing and you’ll do good. Just like with my piano lessons. At first a new song is so hard, but I know if I practice more, it become easier. 

I said you are absolutely right. No pain, no fun, right? then we both smiled. 


Parenting is the most fascinating, rewarding and challenging endeavour!!!

Note on the trip: I’ve rebooked us to a nicer hotel, getting appointment for the swab test, all ready for the fun! I think Lizzy is ready for the beach!

One thought on “Day 204: parenting thoughts on privileges

  1. I think about this often…and I try to be careful with things I either say or don’t say to my kids. I can think of a few examples of times in my life that one of my parents suggested something to me that I would have NOT done otherwise. A couple times it worked out well, but I can think of one where I wish they had NOT suggested the thing to me!!! Ha. I suppose I shouldn’t be so easily influenced by other people’s suggestions, maybe, too. But as a child especially (and even sometimes now as an adult) I do tend to value my parents’ opinions a lot and I think this is pretty common. I try to remember this with my kids and be aware that some little comment I make about them being “good” or not at something, for example, might carry a lot more weight for them than I realize. (Or many other small comments that could influence their decisions.) Another example- my parents always made comments as I grew up about “when you’re in college” or “what you’ll study in college”. I didn’t realize it at the time, but as I got older, not going to college wasn’t an option- I just assumed and expected I would go to college, since my parents had always talked about it!


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