This episode of Armchair expert with Esther Perel, one of the smartest woman I know on relationships, was raw and honest. One of the things that really stuck with me is the concept of nature of any relationship. That it’s a process of connect, disconnect, and reconnect. We don’t need to despair when we are in between these stages, that’s just part of the process. I like the she said it as a matter of fact, not good or bad, just it is.
I often get mad when I see my girls fight with each other on silly things, like every day. 5 min later then reconcile and are playing together again as nothing happened. I am amazed by their ability to switch from stage to stage without much resentment.
As adult, I think we are less flexible in that regard. Once a feeling has came, it takes longer to let it go, or at least that happens to me. Sometimes it takes more than few hours to let a bad feeling about someone or something to go, and in between stages I’m either anxious, sad, or mad. Maybe I should learn more from the girls to let it go more gracefully.