Being in their shoes

I had a meh Monday because someone got grumpy in the early afternoon, thus me trying to fix the issue while trying to work at the office. Let’s just say it was not the best settling and I was sort of pissed.

When I got home, I had to continue to deal with the issue, while trying to finish booking the ticket for my mom and my trip to Manila to do the eye surgery.

Finally at 7:50pm, I was lying on bed with the girls. They asked me how was my day, as usual, and I had to spit it out, it was not great because you guys didn’t work/help with me. Then I went on into why my day was crappy, because I was trying to work while having to deal with things at home. Then I went into telling them how important that I keep my job (not that it’s in any risk anytime soon), that our life style relies on it, and so on. I am not sure it was necessary to tell them all that, but at same time, I wanted them to be in my shoes and understand why I was in a bad moon.

I learned to see others perspectives and be in their shoes in my late 30s, which helped me to put things into perspective and less pissed with them or on myself. I wish I learned those things earlier in life, it would have saved me a lot of heart breaks. Yet, my parents never verbally told me about their struggles, I could sense it because they didn’t break it down for me to fully understand.

Maybe this is a justification of me venting out to 10 and 6 years old… maybe it’s modern parenting… if I was wrong, I hope the damage is not severe.

Hoping Tuesday gets better.

4 thoughts on “Being in their shoes

  1. I definitely don’t think you severely damaged your kids by complaining to them. I don’t see anything wrong with a little honesty! Everything you said was true, and it’s not that the kids should be burdened by it or anything, but I think it’s fine for them to understand that parents are dealing with a lot of stuff and that our lives don’t just only revolve around making sure they are happy. 🙂


  2. Yes I completely agree with Kae! Kids have absolutely no idea how much work goes into being a parent and managing a household. I think it’s our job to teach them all the things that go into our lives so that they are fully (or at least better) prepared when they think it’s time to have kids/a house. Our parents generation definitely was more of the mindset of trying to do it all with a smile on their face and that led to a lot of resentment and unrealistic expectations. I want to be way more open with my kids. And I’m OK with them seeing me in a bad mood, as long as I talk about it and then take the time to take care of myself! Also something my parents never did. You’re doing an amazing job!


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