I just went through my old blog during months of uncertainty, whether we’d be moving to a new country or not. I couldn’t find much of my mental state at the time. But I know I was in current state of mind 4.5 years ago.
As I mentioned, I am considering to look for a new assignment as this is my 5th year in the Philippines, way over due. I was excited about two places, and now I’m zoom in in one, my dream job. It has been a month of waiting for the position to open and I’ve been preparing for it. I thought I had a good chance of getting it, my old boss seems to think so too. Yesterday I had my end of year evaluation discussion with my current boss. First the good news, I got 5 out of 5, which is for 5% of his staff. I know I should be really proud of it and happy to be recognized by my hard work. But since I kind of knew that, I wasn’t particularly excited. And then, we talked about my dream job. He seemed to be less excited, as it’s the dream job for many, so the competition will be fierce and I’m probably the least experienced ones that dare to even apply. Well… I was quite down after the talk.
I realized that I want it so much that it’s affecting my life in other aspects. I haven’t sleep well this week because every day I thought would be the day that the position would be opened so I need to get ready. During my working hours, I keep reading about the country and thinking about what I would say in the interview, and in my leisure time I imagine our life there. Basically, I’m obsessed and I don’t like it.
I expressed my feelings to hubby and he’s so much wiser. He told me to chill, give my best shot and let it be, we will be fine no matter what. I know he’s right but …..
I’ll try to detach myself from it for few days and be ready to accept the unfavorable outcome, yet remain hopeful.
No school for the girls today, I plan to go with hubby to the mall to hunt for a gift. Yesterday I went to some toy stores and can’t make myself to buy one for Sofia, she’s too old for a toy. Well… let’s see if I can find something good. Otherwise, we’ve invited some of her friends this Sunday for a mini party.
4 thoughts on “Too obsessed with one thing”
Congrats on your review. I always struggle to accept positive feedback when I know there is more that I want. So I totally understand where you’re at. Do you know when you might hear more about the future opportunity?
I think the positions will become available for application soon and final outcomes before end of the year.
I just had my review this week too. Fortunately, mine was also positive. 🙂
I think you need to tell us all where the new job would be so we can all think happy thoughts for you to make it come true. 😉 (hahaha or I just can’t wait to hear where it is!) I would be stressed about that too, if it’s highly competitive. Sometimes it’s not even about how “good” you are… in my department we recently had two applicants apply that I had worked with previously in my old job. and they are both absolutely amazing. Apparently there were over 19 applicants for the role, too, before they closed the posting! But of those two, who had the best/ relevant experience, it was literally impossible to choose between them. They were practically identical in skills, background etc. I felt so bad, because obviously only one of them could get it, but they both wanted it. And the one who didn’t get it would have been fantastic, too. So, anyway- I REALLY hope you get it, but if for some reason you don’t, try to remember that usually things have a way of working out eventually. Maybe something EVEN better would come up, and you would end up glad you hadn’t taken that one!
thank you my friend for your wise words 🙂