the day of the actual birthday started with 9 holes golf play. It has been a long time that we did fairway. It was a gorgeous day and we both enjoyed being outside. We agreed that we should aim to come out once a week. Golfing feels so different at the practice range vs. the course.
Then we had lunch at home, some rest and work for me, we went to couple’s massage. My morning run coupled with 2 hrs golfing really needed the massage. Love love it!!
Then we got home and prepared the cake and birthday gifting time. I made a very healthy cake and frosting that nobody believed it was “healthy” version of the chocolate cake. I was soooo proud of myself.
Each year, I aim to give him one gift per person. This year, I got him running shoes (he told me last week that he tried jogging at the treadmill), AirPods dupe (his broke few months ago), and bath rob (he’s always coming out with wrapped towel). They were a mix of need and good to have gifts. And three birthday cards, two homemade.
It made me so happy to prepare for the celebration this year. It turned out just how I want it. I read this comment from this post about relationship that speaks out for me
“I’ve been with my spouse for 16 years, but our ‘status’ subtly changes, month to month, year to year. Some weeks we’re roommates. Sometimes new lovers. Most often, just great friends who are lucky to live together. A few weeks ago, I reread an excerpt from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin: ‘Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.’”
I am happy to be in “new lovers” stage lately 🙂