What’s the #1 quality you value from someone? The answer evolved for me over the years. In the last few years, it came to solidify as being kind or nice person with good heart, good intentions. I often remind the girls to be kind to each other and to others.
Being kind means many things. Husband made me realise that the most important way to be kind to others is to be mindful of how our behaviour affect others feelings.
This is what happened:
Given all the flight drama, the other family who was going to go to Boracay with us decided to cancel the trip. It’s unfortunate because they went through the whole process already but just at the last stage, they gave up. I was commenting their decision to husband and told him they might regret when I send them a photo of us on the white sand beach. He immediately said: don’t do that. If you want to share, post it in Facebook. And if they ask you how it’s going, just say fine.
His short comment made me reflect and I fully agreed. There’s no point to make them regret more than they will probably be when they know we left. So being kind to them is to hold on our excitement to ourselves.
Being kind also means that we show compassion to others, and even willing to sacrifice to make the other person feel better. That’s a further step of being kind.
The other day I reminded Sofia that she still needs to attend her mandarin zoom class when we are in Boracay. She asked what we would do meanwhile. I said: we could go to play while you have your class. As expected, she was not happy about that as she senses unfairness in this arrangement. I was busy with work so didn’t elaborate in my response and simply said: you work out your thoughts yourself (not being kind obviously. I should have said we all have responsibilities and there’s no point to spoil fun to others because of our responsibilities. If I have to work during our vacation, I wouldn’t hold you off from going to the beach ). She was down and even shed some tears for the rest of the evening in her room. Lizzy went between me and her, and cutely asked why can’t we all stay in the room while Sofia has lessons. OMG! This is a kind gesture, my lovely girl.
I am so grateful that my family reminds me to be a kinder person myself. 🙂
- boarding flight registration done.
- girls and husband did their packing for my final inspection
- bought snacks and medicines to take with us
- COVID test results still pending
One thought on “Day 219: being kind”
Your husband is probably right on this one. 🙂 I’m sure it is tempting to say something to your friend, since you probably find the whole thing a little annoying… but yeah, nothing good would likely come of it. 🙂 Like I learned recently, better to just stay quiet sometimes. 🙂
Re: the mandarin zoom…maybe I’m a bad influence here, so feel free to ignore me hahahaha…but can’t she just miss a week?? lol! That’s what I would probably opt for, just taking the week totally off and enjoy vacation! I mean, if the lessons were in person she would just not be able to go/ need to reschedule, right? (I promise Sofia did not put me up to this comment 🙂 But if she does have to attend, that is so cute about Lizzy’s comment. So sweet!! Have the best time! Post lots of pictures. 🙂